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Just quoting a friend of mine - Elena's Journal
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elena
Just quoting a friend of mine
I hope she doesnt mind, its kind of important.

Blogging has evolved (or devolved as it were) into self-incrimination. I started blogging back in 2002 as a method to clear my mind (like an actual handwritten journal) and communicate with friends about life in general when calling or going over was inconvenient for one reason or another (be it distance or time). Now it seems that blogging has become one of three things:
1. A way for your parents/coworkers/peers to gather dirt on you to utterly fuck you over
2. A way for your friends/rivals/frenemies to gather things you've actually said, rip them out of context, and fuck you over
3. A way for you to passive aggressively call out someone you know will read your blog, thereby succeeding in calling them out but failing at being direct and forthright about your feelings and being pretty obviously passive aggressive, thereby fucking yourself over....

There's remedies, but they all severely impede the honesty and content of the average user's blog. For example:
1. Solution Make your blog friends-only and only friend accounts you know aren't dummy accounts to gain information on you.
Point of Fail Not everyone is going to be a member of whatever blogging source you use. Automatically you're cutting your intended audience down because you have to cover your ass.
2. Solution Same as 1 above, but also implement "friends filters" to hide certain entries from certain people.
Point of Fail Again, same as above, but there's always the inherent risk of someone you do filter not knowing who is/is not included on the filter slipping information up to the person who you're hiding information from. Intentionally or unintentionally.

3. Solution Transparency. Just call someone out without the no names passive crap and be done with it.
Point of Fail Are you fucking kidding me?! Being direct in today's society is social suicide. People really, really can't handle the truth or even a dissenting opinion without flipping their shit. And even if they could, there's always the whole "oh why'd you put it on your blog instead of coming to me directly" line. Being passive aggressive is looked down upon with so much disdain, but not quite so much as being actually aggressive.

Ultimately unsponsored blogging has failed. The average person cannot have a blog of constant truth and openness any more than they can be completely transparent (like, Rousseau Transparent, look it up) in actual every day life.
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How can we express ourselves anymore? We can't even be honest with each other.

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ob1quixote From: ob1quixote Date: January 28th, 2009 10:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
Just do what I do and make all your posts videos of guys getting kicked in the nuts.
ladylilo From: ladylilo Date: January 28th, 2009 10:47 pm (UTC) (Link)
"How can we express ourselves anymore? We can't even be honest with each other."

People have never been honest with each other, it's just that now we have a new medium to lie.
radanax From: radanax Date: January 29th, 2009 06:20 am (UTC) (Link)
yes, it is - I don't know how to fix it either, but radical honesty does exist, and I'm scared of it.
jordanlawman83 From: jordanlawman83 Date: January 29th, 2009 07:45 am (UTC) (Link)

well

you seem to be very honest with me, calling me on my excessive drinking...

I like that, in fact, that's one of the reasons I write - I read the things that people won't tell me to my face
roastbeefguy From: roastbeefguy Date: January 29th, 2009 01:32 pm (UTC) (Link)
This person is right, but about the completely obvious. Of course no one likes it when you call them out in front of the entire world. Of course no one likes it when you are passive aggressive to them. OF COURSE people are going to use what you say against you. This has been going on for longer than the internet was even thought of.

Basically what I got out of this from your friend was: "I made information available that should have been private, and I got upset because any tom, dick, and asshole that had a problem with me had access to something I didn't want them seeing."

Blogging hasn't failed, she's just feeling the bitter sting of learning a lesson.
akaneko From: akaneko Date: January 30th, 2009 05:35 am (UTC) (Link)
Ditto. It's not as if blogging itself has changed; it was never a good idea to publicly post anything you didn't want someone to know. Total honesty is entirely possible, but you can't expect to just go around saying things that will upset people and NOT have any social consequences for it. If you don't want to be misunderstood - or, sometimes much worse, COMPLETELY understood - you should keep that sort of total honesty either within the circle of people you can trust completely with it, or in forums where you can keep it completely anonymous.
realmrpger From: realmrpger Date: January 30th, 2009 07:43 am (UTC) (Link)
This is so true. There are some things that I don't post about simply because I KNOW it will make person A upset.
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